The Beautiful People

"Yeah, all my friends are fucked up. No offense." - TVS


Some observations - purely my personal opinions.


1. You're obsessed with making the big bucks, but at the same time want nothing but leisure. You are a hard worker when you put your mind to it, but when you don't want to do anything, you do absolutely nothing - and you don't care about the consequences. Part of you wants to be responsible, but the other part wants to be a free spirit flitting about. I think it's the influence of some of your more questionable friends, and you are very prone to being influenced by others - for better or for worse.


2. You are in a rut. But it's not really a rut, and I think you will see that soon. Life is like a standing wave - I think you are just experiencing one of the nodes right now.

You're a fun and vibrant individual, and I hate to think that inside you are not as happy as you deserve to be.


3. It's time to grow up. Time to be responsible, time to stop blaming all your problems on everyone else. Time to start acting your age. You are a great person, but you've got a lot of baggage. It's time now to deal with all your issues and start life, because half of it has passed you by already. Don't waste the rest of it.


4. You're like an Everlasting Gobstopper - there's a sugary core at your center, but the outside is just layer after layer of stubborn protective shells. Some of those outermost shells are very bitter and hard to swallow. Others offer a glimpse of the goodness that lies within. Trouble is, some people can't get through the bitter part and never experience the sweet. I think you can change your flavors - you can do it - it won't hurt - and you won't get hurt in the process.


5. You're a family person. You love your family and will do whatever you can for them. That's admirable. But what you need to realize is that now, your family has changed. It's no longer you and your parents and your siblings. It's you and your spouse and your child. They need to come first.


6. I wonder if you are truly happy or if you are just hiding your true feelings from your friends and yourself. I really can't tell. I hope you know the truth.


7. Where has your self-esteem gone? The whole reason you are in this mess is because you feel bad about yourself. It wasn't always like this. Sure, there were moments - but overall - things were okay. Maybe certain events started whittling away at you, and now you're where you're at. What can you do to change it? Do you want to keep being taken advantage of? Do you think you deserve that? Because you don't. You've certainly learned a lot. Now can you make use of that knowledge and bring out a newly improved old you?


8. You are ignoring a ticking time bomb. You want a future full of happiness - and you deserve that. But, that future will be very short if you don't pay attention. Do you want to get all this just to leave it all behind too early?


9. You are too stubborn for your own good. You think you are always right, and curse anyone who dares correct you. This is a very bad character trait - it's really the only bad one you have. Sure, you've been burned a bit, and have good reason to act the way you do. But, you let it out at the wrong times. You hurt the ones who love you the most - and you don't even mean to. Soften the edges just a little and see how smoothly everything works. You are incredibly lucky. Don't let your hardness rob you of that.

10. I don't think you even see what's going on around you. More and more, it's abundantly clear that there is a problem, but you are so immersed in your own world that you cannot see it. Do you realize how much damage you are causing by acting the way you do? Your actions have far-reaching effects. It's not entirely your fault, but you are doing nothing but making the situation worse.


11. Your slide into self-pity is getting old. You made a mistake. Get over it and move on.

12. There seem to be two people inside of your head. One is a smart, independent, hard working, completely together person. The other is a scared little animal with no self confidence who is just looking for easy street. I think you are trying to find a happy medium between the two, but I'm worried that in the long run you are going to take the easy way out. That would be such a waste, and I think that you'll end up being unhappy if you do so.


13. Don't you think you've spread yourself too thin? How many people can you help at one time? You've let your guard down and your being taken advantage of now as well. Some need you more than others. You need to cut some ties and make room for what's most important.


14. You need to make a stand. What are you afraid of? You speak of always giving in - it bothers you, but you do nothing to change it. Instead, you just get angry at the situation and lash out. Don't you see that that behavior is much worse in the long run than just standing your ground?


15. You like drama. You purposely put yourself into dramatic situations when you could just as easily walk away. Sometimes it's fun -sometimes you get hurt. Doesn't it get tiring?


I love you all,

S